What is errors of thinking?
When we end up in a situation that causes jealousy, it's because we have misread the situation. We attribute our partner and others with behaviors that are not right. The reason why we misread these situation is because of errors in our thinking. And those errors are something we have learned throughout our life. At times, they can actually help us, but sometimes they are harmful and are the reason why we think jealous thoughts.
Errors of thinking are something we have learned through our life, and they help to control the way we see and perceive the world. Sometimes, these errors of thinking can be good, but when they create jealous thoughts, they have a negative impact in our lives.
How to change errors of thinking
To correct your errors you, first have to the identify them. In helping you to identify your errors, you will be introduced to four different kinds of errors of thinking. Try to identify your errors of thinking.
Second, we have to correct those errors by changing the way to see an situation.
What is Black, and white thinking?
When you have black and white thinking you only see two possible outcomes of a situation. It is black or it is white.
When you only see things as, only good or bad, you are ignoring the whole spectrum of nuances between the two.
Things are not only good or bad ,there are always a more realistic outcome of a situation.
What about you. Do you also think a situation as black or white, or do you have a more realistic view of a situation?
What is catastrophising?
When you have catastrophising thinking you expect the worst possible outcome of an event. E.g. "My partner will be unfaithful to me."
You do not take more realistic outcomes into consideration. E.g. "My partner is going to a party and she will talk to many men, but she will be faithful to me".
What about you?. Do you also have catastrophising thinking, and expect the worst outcome of a situation.
What is mind reading?
When you mind read you think that you can read others minds and know that they think and will do.
You may think, my partner is going to a party and she will be unfaithful to me. and I know this, because I can read her mind.
What you are missing out are considering some more realistic outcomes. for eksample my partner are going to a party and she will talk with many people and thats ok.
What about you. Do you recognize this thinking patten. Do you also think that you can read others minds.
What is mental filter?
When you have a mental filter you only allow negative things to pass through
Positive things do not pass through the mental filter for example when your partner says something positive as I will be faithful to you. You do not believe your partner, since you do not a let positive things pass through
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